I Didn’t Tell Them I Was ‘Expecting’

jtdale-closeup-color.pngDear J.T. & Dale: I worked for five months for a manufacturing firm as an executive assistant. It was a temp-to-hire position through a recruitment agency. After three months, my supervisor told me that they were interested in hiring me. I did not tell them I was expecting a baby. I knew they noticed my belly getting big, but when my supervisor asked, “Are you expecting?” I just smiled. I did not formally tell them till two months before my due date. They said I was welcome to come back. Prior to my leave, I taught my replacement everything. I even worked the day before I delivered the baby. Then, four weeks later, I called my agency. They told me that the company’s human-resources representative had said that the temporary person they had hired was working out well, and that they did not need my services. I was shocked. Is this unfair labor practice? — Greta

Dale: Well, it sounds unfair to me. However, I know that what you’re really asking is, Is it illegal? J.T. and I get into trouble when we offer legal opinions, but from what you’ve told us, you were always a “temp,” and all you have to go on are a vague promise and your suspicions.

J.T.: I wonder what would have happened if you’d been more candid with your supervisors. It’s possible that when you didn’t respond to the inquiry about your pregnancy, they felt disappointed that you didn’t feel you had a good enough relationship with them to trust them with the truth.

Dale: I can sympathize with women who consider their pregnancy to be nobody’s business. But I also sympathize with businesses trying to plan their staffing. I know one executive who hired a replacement for an assistant on maternity leave, only to discover that the replacement was pregnant and wanted maternity leave. He put in considerable effort to figure out how to find spots for both of them when they returned; then, after the leaves were up, both announced they weren’t coming back. I bring that up as a way of illustrating that managers know that there’s a percentage of women who decide not to return after maternity leave. So, if J.T.’s theory is correct, your former supervisors felt no emotional connection to you, and so they made new plans.

J.T.: Going forward, I suggest you reach out to a different staffing company, just in case there are any lingering doubts at the old agency. Start with a clean slate at a new place, and I’ll bet they find you a spot with a company that’s glad to have you on its permanent staff.

4 Responses

  1. Ask a Manager Says:

    I agree with this. Being coy about your pregnancy until seven months likely didn’t leave them feeling any loyalty to you. Yes, it’s your personal business, but you likely showed them you weren’t interesting in helping them plan long-term and that doesn’t go over well.

  2. barbsright Says:

    Yes, it is unfair. Talk to a lawyer. A good company would not care if you were pregnant, or not.

  3. BMB Says:

    I was working for a temporary agency when I found out that I was pregnant. I specifically asked the agency representative what if anything I should say on interviews. They told me, “They can’t ask you if you’re pregnant.”. I asked, “But shouldn’t I say something?” I felt it was unfair to accept a position and then tell them I was expecting. Again, they said, “They can’t ask you if you’re pregnant.”. And when I tried to get further clarification, I was told, “They can’t ask you if you’re pregnant.”. The impression I got was that they didn’t want me to say I was pregnant, but no one wanted to actually SAY “Don’t tell anyone” so it wouldn’t come back to haunt them. The agency was pretty useless and I left them soon after.

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